Grief Distracts Us From Jesus

Have you ever succumbed to grief?

I definitely have.

When I divorced, I felt as if I’d been officially disqualified from ever being happy. Survival mode became the new norm. After months of brokenness, I began a new journey ~ only I brought grief with me, cisterns of it. I languished there. It led to pain-peddling in my heart and sin. The enemy used my grief like glue; it kept me stuck to a backdrop of pain. Not a fun thing, for sure.

Now looking back, my conclusion is…

Grief distracts us from Jesus.

After the dust settled, I realized grief blinded and distracted me. It caused a dismissal of all things positive. It pressed the pause button on my life’s story for far too long. Most importantly, it prevented me from seeing Jesus… clear and up close.

I’m in good company, though.

The disciples were also distracted by grief. Their grief kept them from praying with Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane (see Luke 22:39-46). It also played a role in their disbelief when the women ran from an empty tomb proclaiming Jesus was alive (see Mark 16). Grief paralyzed their minds and hardened their hearts to the reality of a resurrected Christ.

Jesus left behind great advice for his disciples and for girls like us.

Instead of passively wallowing in a puddle of pain Jesus instructs us to, “Get up {which is hard when we feel accused and defeated} and pray so that we will not fall into temptation,” (see Luke 22:39-46).

Did you notice that?

Prayer keeps us from temptation. It keeps us from being tempted to sit in suffering; tempted to grieve over things we can’t control; tempted to rely on self.

Years later I realized grief stunted my spiritual growth.

Grief wouldn’t allow me to mature in my faith, instead it suppressed it. Grief labeled Jesus as a mere acquaintance in my life rather than an intimate Savior. Like the disciples, I barely recognized a resurrected Christ in my life.

Sweet sister, I’m sorry if you are walking this path today. But don’t give up. Be intentional about abiding in His presence as often as you can. Decide from this day forward not to allow grief to keep you from Jesus. Instead, allow God’s glory to unleash itself as He reigns over your grief (see Ps. 50:15).

“So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy. 23 In that day you will no longer ask me anything. Very truly I tell you, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name,” (John 16:16-33).


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You are so right! This post touches my heart, as I have allowed grief to distract me, also…but, not for long…Any time stolen from praise and thanksgiving of our Lord is wasted time. Every morning, throughout the day, and before I close my eyes at night, I ask the Lord to send His Holy Spirit to heal my soul and hold my heart, as I walk in His Light. The healing and revelations that are given to me are beyond my uttered prayers and dreams. And, when I get off track and start stressing about “life,” I quickly pull-back and ask my Lord to shield and direct me, for I have confidence in His promises to keep me…. This is an on-going exercise that I practice. After much practice, I have noticed that I pull-away from distractions, faster and faster, until one day…we are Home with our Jesus!! Praises and Many blessings!
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Grief definitely did a number on me after my divorce. I could totally relate to what you were saying. Thankfully God brought beauty from the ashes of my life. It was in my most desperate point, God did some of His greatest miracles in my life.
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