The Problem with Perfectionism

The “why” snips at my heels.

Why can’t I figure out what everyone else seems to know?

Why do I lose track of the Truth sometimes?

Why does perfectionism extinguish the oxygen words, the life resuscitators?

Why does it suffocate the syllables of promise that weave into the fabric of emotion and logic?

Why do Jesus girls stumble over hurdles of needing everything to be just so?

The organized calendar, I can’t seem to keep.

The home-cooked meal, I can’t seem to get on the table by 6:00 pm.

The to-do list, I can’t seem to check off.

Like a humid breeze whistling through the thirsty grass, God exhales a much needed reminder in my direction.

Stop trying to make everything perfect.

The state of your home (and your to-do list) is not a reflection of the state of your heart.

I am the God who pursues imperfect people and you’re no exception.

I am the God of the “Come and be still with me.”

I am the God who thinks your problem is just the right size, even though it’s too big for you.

I breathe a sigh of relief.

God doesn’t expect us to be perfect.

What he does expect:

Our prayers; he anticipates them.

Our praise; he created us for worship.

Our thanks; he has given so much to be thankful for.

One thing to remember ~ Perfection doesn’t define world changing Christians. Take some time to read about Hebrews’ hall of faith inductees. It’s quite the opposite.

What makes them unique and audacious is their understanding of God’s perfect nature, perfect power and perfect purpose. Their faith fueled ability to allow God to be the One who answers their why.

If we become tangled in a web of “whys” today, let’s remember to lean into the One who provides a sticky free plan for making the whys more manageable and not so overwhelming…

What are ways you fight off perfectionism?
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09.08.11

My problem that seems too big for me is actually just the right size with God. I don’t have to have all the answers because Jesus does. I just need to keep reaching out to Him in prayer, with thanksgiving. Wonderful encouragement today, Kelli!

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09.08.11

I’m beginning to view my need for perfection as a form of pride… my need to be in control of my life. Perfection (for me) is really protection against what people think of me… my need to control how they view me. Along with my need to “feel” okay about myself. If I’m only interested in pleasing God perfection is the last thing He wants from me… He just wants me. I’ve got a list of “Whys” and “Whens” for that matter, but I I try really hard to never ask Him “Why” but instead “What.” What do you want me to see… to learn… to do. Asking Him “Why” just invites me into the self-pity pit… a place I know all too well 🙂 When I think of those hall of Faith hero’s, they always trusted and never doubted and I think that’s what trips us up. We hesitate and lose focus because of doubt… like Peter wobbling about on the water… when what we really need to do is just continue in Faith. Great post, you have my thoughts spinning 🙂

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“Perfect” words for me today, Kelli! Thank you so much for this – it’s so good to know I’m not the only one who struggles with this whole “perfectionism” thing. “I am the God who thinks your problem is just the right size, even though it’s too big for you.” Amen!
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09.08.11

Such encouraging words, Kelli–ones I need to be reminded of from time to time as I “forget” that my relationship with God is all about grace. Thanks! 🙂
Blessings!
Pam at http://www.2encourage.blogspot.com

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Always, always, always battling the ugly beast of perfectionism. Sometimes failure helps me to get back on track to see that the world still spins on.

Thanks for you words today.
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09.08.11

Kelli,

Well I haven’t quite figured out how to overcome perfectionism, but I am happy to know I am not alone in my struggles to try to be perfect and to find myself always falling short. In my quest of perfectionist I have discovered that I just stack needless burdens on myself. Great post today Kelli.
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You know Kelli, I’m learning (slowly) that perfectionism is a very relative term. We can’t achieve it ourselves, but when we focus on what our Heavenly Father desires of us, we come that much closer to His Kingdom… Which by design is perfection. 🙂

Have a Blessed Day!
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09.08.11

I am fighting perfectionism by trying not to worry so much about what my house looks like when friends come over. By scrambling to put my house back together before company arrives, I am stumbling another mother who may think my house always looks nice, and I’ve got all my ducks in a row. I LOVE going to a fellow mom’s house and seeing that it isn’t perfect…it encourages me to know that nobody has it all together. I’m pretty sure God really doesn’t care if your house is in order if your family is falling apart!
Great Post Kelli!

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09.08.11

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Sweet Laura, we are indeed so much alike. I’ve got a deal for you… you have my permission to make a surprise visit to my house any time… I’ll be mortified, but you will be SO encouraged! I’m willing to suffer for you 🙂

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09.08.11

I had the oppostie problem…what word do you use for the opposite of perfectionism? Whatever it is, that was me! I had to become intentional about keeping my house neater (and clean), keeping a schedule for my kids, bible study…I am thankful He allowed me to see what I was depriving us all of.

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09.08.11

I use to be a perfectionism I hated if anything went out of order I use to put so much pressure on myself to make sure it was perfect and I wouldn’t settle for anything less. bad thing about it was I expected others to be the same way. My mother sat me down many years ago and told me it was not normal and that I was hurting myself. Her words of wisdom and with God’s help I am not like that any more..but I will say each day I do have to watch myself because the enemy tries to tempt me with being a perfectionism and when I notice it in me I have to step back and stop it because it is so easy to get back into being like that…What my mother also told me and the Lord taught me was I needed to have a balance in it but when it becomes excessive then it’s a bad thing but if I keep balance and not get stressed out and except others then it is not a bad thing…Great topic…
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I fight perfectionism by trying to measure my motives. Am I trying to do well as a reflection on me or to make His name famous? The latter attracts; the former repels…
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