Self-Confidence or God-Confidence?

 

Our Oksol family memory verse for the week has been this:

“So do not throw away your confidence, it will be richly rewarded.  You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised” Hebrews 10:35-36

I have been acutely aware of confidence-related feelings and thoughts this week.  Let me share:

Lately I have been awestruck watching my 10-year-old daughter’s sheer delight in herself.  It has been such a pleasure and a joy to watch her dancing in front of a mirror, or strutting around in new school clothes, just happy-as-can-be with herself.  And right after I enjoy these moments, Satan, the great accuser, perches on my shoulder and tells me, “Be afraid, this won’t last.   Soon she will become acutely aware of how she doesn’t measure up, just like every other good American girl does”.  Argh.  Confidence deflated.

A friend of mine who does not have an intimate relationship with Jesus asks me how she could improve herself and lists off all of her redeeming qualities she sees in herself. “I am a good mother”, “I am a kind person”, “I don’t have anger problems.” “What else is there?” she asks me?  I am hit briefly between the eyes with some jealousy—What I wouldn’t give to think I had it all figured out!  What I wouldn’t give for her confidence!

A friend of mine who is struggling with alcoholism calls.  “Erin, I did it again, I drank.  How can I do this?”. I tell him confidently the three simple steps to staying sober: 1) You can’t; 2) God can; 3) let Him!

And then it hits me!  This confidence thing becomes confusing to me only when I am trying to find my confidence based on worldy standards.  My confidence comes and goes like the wind, shattered by the smallest of insults, when I am trying to find my confidence based on worldly standards.

My beautiful daughter’s confidence in herself will, and has, been shattered at times when she tries to measure up to others.  My neighbor feels she is measuring up only because she is not trying to willfully please the Lord and she is only trying to please her own self-esteem and the esteem of others.  And my alcoholic friend can only find strength to conquer his disease when he completely lacks confidence in himself and surrenders all of his power to the Lord!  Amazing!

So the Oksol family Bible verse of the week is telling me some very important truths about confidence that I don’t want to miss:

1)   When I line up my wants with the will of God, God is going to richly reward me! I can be confident about that because the Lord says it is so!

2)   Don’t be fooled by the world’s definition of false pride. We are not to have confidence in ourselves but what God can do through us when we obey and do His will. 

3)   And the next time you confront fear about doing the Lord’s will, and you become weary, feeling as though you don’t have what it takes, remember:

  • I can’t

  • God can

  • I think I’ll let Him!

Glorifying God with you,

Erin 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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2 Responses

09.12.12

What a beautiful example and witness to your friend struggling with alcohol. I love how God uses our setbacks to set us up for a specific purpose: to glorify him. And that is why we are even here…to bring glory to our heavenly daddy! I am noticing the girl-stutin-thing at our house as well:)) I love your three last points too. We have to remember to let God provide the strength only He can to get us through! Love your sweet and courageous spirit my sweet friend!

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09.12.12

Such a power-packed post! I love this… “This confidence thing becomes confusing to me only when I am trying to find my confidence based on worldy standards. My confidence comes and goes like the wind, shattered by the smallest of insults, when I am trying to find my confidence based on worldly standards.” I SO relate to this. We have to keep HIM in full focus… find the only confidence that matters… and hold on tight, so we don’t stumble over the traps set by Satan and the world because they are everywhere! Your first point at the bottom immediately reminded me of Psalm 37:4… “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.” When we delight ourselves in His ways… giving up our own… He meets all of our needs. A lesson I need over and over again. Love you!

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