Words Hurt and Truth Heals

So, I saw something recently that I’m pretty sure wasn’t intended for my eyes.

I will not get into the details, but it is interesting how a single little word wrapped in an unsuspecting sentence with your name attached to it has so much power.

Extract that single little word and the problem… the power… it disappears.  Ah, but no there “it” is, inserted with intent and in an accidental send it sits before my eyes.

And, of course… it really hurt.

You know that old saying…

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

You do, I’m sure of it.

And, you probably also know that “words”… they actually do hurt.

In fact, I’m thinking over my history of broken bones…

My arm in the second grade

Several ribs in 1997

And, well, I remember those things happening for sure. But, the pain and the hurt associated with them… it’s gone. Wiped completely and perfectly from my memory.

Yet, words that hurt? They seem to stick around. For-ever. They resurface and settle and resurface again. Stinging like the very first time they struck.

I hate that. And I am a lover of words… they are so very impacting. The positive punches they throw are delightful, but the negative hits… they are gruesome.

So, this experience reminds me instantly of two important things…

1.) I’m guilty. I have carelessly and thoughtlessly hurt others with my words. And the verse that I am constantly repeating to my children lately comes to mind, “…Let everything you say (or write) be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” Ephesians 5:29b

We need to be careful with our words.

2.) I need to believe. If I truly believe who I am in Christ these words that hurt so badly lose all of their power over me. I am reading Renee Swope’s wonderful book called “A Confident Heart.” And she has laid out some mind changing truth for when we doubt who we are in Christ…

“We find ourselves in the shadow of doubt many times because our thoughts are mostly about ourselves: how we’re performing and what others are thinking about us. When we turn our attention on ourselves, we turn our attention away from God. We leave no room in our thoughts to listen to what He is thinking about us, because we have given that place away to be occupied by other people’s opinions. We become overly concerned about what others thing of us instead of what God thinks.”

This encouragement, along with a little mental exchanging of words… the hurting ones for the healing ones… does the trick for me. Renee reminds us that…

We are accepted (as is) — Ephesians 1:3-8 I have been chosen by God and adopted as His Child.

We are secure — Romans 8:28 I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.

We are significant — Ephesians 2:10 I am God’s workmanship.

We need to believe these words.


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Our words are powerful. They can bring life or death. Thank you for this reminder Heidi.
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We can’t stress that enough about our mouths as my mom always told us if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing. Jesus tells us that we are to speak words of edify and build up not bring them down…Out of the mouth we can either bless or curse someone for it is wicked for what is in the heart the mouth speaks.
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Oh, the healing and beauty of this post! These thoughts, words and Scriptures are important to our well-being, so that we my pass it on to our children and everyone we come in contact with. May the blessings of the Lord be upon you! ~Cynthia
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Great thoughts, Heidi. I am starting that Renee Swope study with my WBS in a couple weeks. I’m really looking forward to it!
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Heidi, you are right, we share tender hearts! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog. My father taught me that words are like toothpaste. Once it’s out of the tube, you can try to put it back, but you’ll just make a bigger mess. We can try to take words back and the people we spoke them to can forgive us, but the injury is done, the moment we speak those careless words. Then the one on the receiving end has to heal and bear a scar. Your words here are powerful and so relevant! Thank you for this post!
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